Need a date? If you're on Facebook, you can search through millions of profiles to find someone who strikes your fancy. Just like in the real world, there is a certain amount of skill you will need to catch someone's interest. Facebook has a variety of ways to find dating partners. Some are through Facebook's native feature set. Others are enabled by Facebook's many pages and applications. This guide will help you learn how to date on Facebook.
If you are scouting for members of the opposite sex, Facebook is a great place to look. Whether you just want a casual date or are looking for a life partner, plenty of options are available for you to browse through. Facebook is different than online dating sites, because not everyone is looking for romance. This eliminates some of the pressure, because there are no implied expectations when you begin a conversation. Of course, dating on Facebook requires the same level of prowess as dating in the real world -- you just get to go about it at a different pace.
If you are scouting for members of the opposite sex, Facebook is a great place to look. Whether you just want a casual date or are looking for a life partner, plenty of options are available for you to browse through. Facebook is different than online dating sites, because not everyone is looking for romance. This eliminates some of the pressure, because there are no implied expectations when you begin a conversation. Of course, dating on Facebook requires the same level of prowess as dating in the real world -- you just get to go about it at a different pace.
Step 1: Create an Enticing Profile
- By enticing, I don't mean that you should post your sexiest boudoir photos. That will only come across as sleazy, desperate, or both. However, you need a profile that will make people want to get to know you. Follow some of these tips:
- Make sure your profile identifies you as single.
- Post your most flattering photo, and make sure it is recent.
- Include your favorite hobbies and interests.
- Include your occupation.
- Note your achievements, but try not to come across as cocky.
- Skip the rants and complaints, unless they are related to something you are deeply passionate about.
- Don't get too personal. Save your life story for later.
Step 2: Look for Prospects
You probably already know a lot of people on Facebook. If you don't have a lot of friends on there yet, search for everyone you can think of, including people you went to school with, or used to work with. Even if you are not attracted to any of them, remember that they have friends. The beauty of Facebook is that you can look through the friends of all your friends to find people you are attracted to.
Check out Facebook groups by typing groups into the Search field. Here, you can look for activities or topics that interest you, and join others who share your enthusiasm. Look through group members to find people who spark your interest.
Check out Facebook groups by typing groups into the Search field. Here, you can look for activities or topics that interest you, and join others who share your enthusiasm. Look through group members to find people who spark your interest.
Initiating Contact
- Once you've found someone you like, you can do any of these things:
- Send a friend request.
- Write on their wall.
- Send them a message.
- If you opt to send a friend request, you should accompany it with a message or a wall blurb. If you choose a message, tell the prospective date how you found their profile, what drew you to them, and then ask something you would like to know about them. If you found them on a friend's profile, you should mention the friend, and maybe ask how they know each other. Keep it casual, and don't ask for a date right away. If you post a wall message, make it a quick note about something in their profile that caught your eye. References to body parts are highly discouraged
Moving Forward
- If the person is interested, they will get back to you. Keep things casual for at least a couple of messages, and then ask them out if you feel a connection. If they decline, don't sweat it -- just move on until you find someone who returns your affection.
- If you do not hear back from them after your initial contact, leave them alone. No one is required to accept your friend request or return your message. Pursuing someone who has demonstrated a lack of interest can be considered stalking, and you have nothing to gain from this sort of behavior.
Conclusion
- Facebook is a veritable playground for daters, and if you know how to present yourself well you should easily be able to score some companionship here. Make sure your profile shows you in the best light, and look through friends' lists or groups for prospective partners. Keep it fun, and don't get discouraged if it takes longer than you expected. If you don't get positive responses at first, forget about those people and move on. There are plenty of faces to get to know on Facebook!
